Hi guys, Julia here.
Happy Mother’s Day to all the awesome moms who each and every day are taking care of things, bringing up the kids, and maybe even building a business. I thought for Mother’s Day I write something about my entrepreneurial journey, what keeps me going every day, what I have learned, and some tips I like to share.
Having a business is like an evolution…..you start somewhere, you learn along the way, you make mistakes, you step back, you correct, and you keep going. An ever changing process where one day you feel you are finally getting there, while other days you think: damn, I have no idea what in the world I’m doing.
I feel that those same emotions occur when you choose to start a family and are expecting your first child. You don’t really know what happens until you finally get there, and even then each day is a new journey. Luckily as a “mompreneur,” I have crossed that bridge, and have found that time spent bringing up my children have shaped my entrepreneurial journey. I’ve learned patience, perseverance, I’ve become more resilient, I am better organized, and I can multi-task while still (somehow) remaining relaxed. You mature, as a “mompreneur.” You see yourself become more confident and learn to handle things better with a longer fuse. Additionally, as I’ve grown as a mother and as an entrepreneur, I’ve realized that my tendency to overthink has lessened as I simply do not have the time to dwell anymore.
At the end of the day, I am still me, though. I have always been a very active person who can never sit still, I am always filled with lots of ideas, plans, and a love for creativity. I’ve always been passionate for beautiful things, and have an active imagination, all characteristics I bring to my work.
When I lived in Europe, being an entrepreneur never crossed my mind. I always worked in corporate and felt content with that. However when we came to the U.S. five years ago and I wasn’t legally allowed to work, my setup drastically changed. I had to help my kids transition into making new friends and feeling settled in an English speaking environment, something they weren’t completely comfortable with yet. I had to concentrate on settling in as a family to our new home and supporting them through the process.
My goal was to create a better life for my children, spend more time with them, and make them comfortable. However, I couldn’t shake the feeling of wanting to go back to work. It was part of my happiness, identity, and I couldn’t imagine never going back. While patiently waiting for my work permission I started to educate beyond my previous degrees. Modern marketing, especially digital marketing’s current impact on American culture fascinated me, and I began to work on a business plan and prepare for my own venture.
I have learned that discipline and proper organization are key. Stick with a routine, and don’t back down from it. Personally, I get up really early and work out. Even on days where I’m feeling especially exhausted, getting up early and exercising helps me to regroup and be energized for the day. As soon as the kids have left for school, I really focus on my work and try not to get distracted to keep productivity flowing! Every night I compile my to-do list with my priorities, tasks that need to get done, and things I have to work on. Sometimes the list doesn’t pan out according to plan, and there are days where I get mad at myself because I feel especially unproductive, but I remind myself “that’s life!”
We are all only human beings and I believe that accepting weakness shows true strength. Have fun while working and appreciate your achievements. Understand what you are good at and try to outsource stuff that is better done by others. You can’t do it alone. Finally, always remember to carve out a bit of time for yourself, something you really enjoy unrelated to the business. Don’t forget to socialize and to spend time with your spouse or partner. As much as I love my kids, it’s so nice to still have some romantic time to celebrate your togetherness.
What a journey! Although there have been so many ups and down, crying, swearing, celebrating - I would never go back. Running your own business is no piece of cake, especially while raising a family at the same time, however it has brought me so much joy. I really want to encourage all the moms out there to follow your dreams and make the plunge. You won’t regret it. And if you fail – well at least you tried ;)
Have a happy Mother’s Day and keep hustling!